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It's way past time for an update. Please forgive my lack of posting in recent weeks. Summer has been full and busy. I did manage to lose nine pounds in the past six weeks. I had good days and bad days, as expected, but got off track majorly the weekend I went to Ohio. I returned with a three pound weight gain, but I'm happy to still have six pounds off. I'm making progress amidst some setbacks, but it's all part of the learning process. In the past, I would beat myself up over each setback, so I'm working on changing my attitude. I hated going to weigh in last week, but I knew I had to face that scale and get back on track. I'm slowly learning that hiding from the scale solves nothing.
I'm still not divorced. I was two miles from the court house, just 15 minutes away from signing the final papers, when my cell phone range. It was my attorney's office calling to tell me the judge canceled the hearing. There was a mix up in the court time. I believe it was divine intervention. For some reason we were not meant to get divorced that day. I was able to meet with my husband for a little while. It was the first time I saw him in more than two years. It went well. He hugged me several times. We laughed and talked. It seemed like nothing ever happened between us. He told me the only reason he's still there and hasn't returned home is the fear of having to face everyone after what he's done. He kissed me goodbye before he left and said he loved me. I never thought I would hear those words again...I'm so thankful I did.
I don't know what God has planned for the future. I do know having that time with my husband was priceless. I saw the emotion on his face and heard it in his voice. He's always been a very prideful man. For him to face his family, friends, and the people in our small community, after they all know what he's done, would be extremely difficult for him or for anyone. He admitted he wasn't happy where he was and that he missed his children and grandchildren. It's something only he can work out now. All I can do is continue to pray for him and surrender the situation to God. I feel more at peace now. Regardless of what happens, I know in some way this will all be used for the glory of God.
People keep asking me what I'm going to do now. Well, I'm going to be faithful to pray for my husband. What happens next is between God and him. I will go on with my life. I'm going to serve God, enjoy my grandchildren and children, spend time with my friends, continue to work on losing weight and developing a healthier lifestyle, and diligently work hard to pursue the career of my dreams...being a writer. I'm working on getting a freelance writing business off the ground, and I'm working on some projects to publish on Kindle.
I'm finding a renewed strength recently. I admit the weekend in Ohio was rough emotionally. At times I didn't think I was going to make it, but through reading God's word and praying I survived. No matter what fight we face, whether trying to overcome addictive behavior, crumbling marriages, or health problems, the weapon we need to win the battle is always the same, God's word. I will end with an email I sent to the ladies at my church. It gives more details about what happened that weekend for anyone who is interested.
Until next time, press on with your goals and never give up!
Email:
I would like to thank everyone who has been praying for me regarding my marriage and pending divorce. I traveled to Ohio this past weekend for our scheduled divorce settlement hearing. We were supposed to sign our final papers Monday morning at 10:00. The weekend was grueling for me emotionally. I was dreading walking into that court room on Monday. I had not seen my husband in almost 2-1/2 years since he left to live with his girlfriend in Ohio. I was wondering if she would be there. I felt like I was on an emotional roller coaster. I cried most of the weekend. I prayed God would stop the hearing, but it seemed hopeless. It was a day away, everything was going as planned, and I kept telling myself I had to accept that I was going to be driving back to Pennsylvania as a single woman after the court hearing.
I was reading 1 Samuel on Saturday morning and a verse stood out to me:
David said to the Philistine, "You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied." (1 Samuel 17:45)
I thought about how the "other woman" had called several months ago and screamed obscenities at me, because I sent my husband a text message. When I told her I was praying for our family to be reconciled, she screamed, "Pray all you want, it won't work." There were other verbal attacks that I won't elaborate on. The enemy was using her words as weapons to try and destroy my faith. I felt this was a spiritual battle from the beginning. Satan was waging war against my home, marriage, and family.
Monday morning, I took a piece of the hotel stationary out and wrote the verse on it. I folded it up and put it in my pocket. I was nervous and scared, but I kept thinking that I was going to face this difficult time in the name of the Lord Almighty. I kept repeating the verse as I finished getting ready. I felt strengthened and prepared as I drove the 30 minute commute to the city. I was two miles from the court house when my cell phone rang. It was my attorney's office telling me there was a problem. The judge had canceled the hearing because we were "no-shows." They asked me to find a place to stop and wait until they called to see what was going on. They soon called back and said apparently there was a mix up with the time. The court had our hearing set for 8:30 AM, but all of our papers said 10:00 AM. The judge and the attorneys didn't understand how the time got changed, as everything is computer generated, and the time listed in the computer system was still 8:30 AM. Yet, it printed on the copies as 10:00 AM. They said they had no explanation regarding how the time had printed differently and they never had that happen before. The judge refused to reschedule the hearing that day, because it would delay all the other hearings.
My husband called shortly after and we decided to meet and talk. We were able to spend about 30 minutes together. It went well. He hugged me several times and said he loved me. We were both emotional, and he said he just can't bring himself to return home because of what he has done and the fear of facing everyone is more than he could ever take. He is a very prideful man and admitted he misses his family but knows he could never face friends and family again due to the humiliation. He said fear is the only thing keeping him away from home.
God intervened and stopped the hearing on Monday for a purpose. I don't know if he is going to bring my husband home, or if it was just delayed so I would have that time alone with my husband to have some sort of closure. I do know it was divine intervention and for some reason it was not meant to happen that day. We were less 15 minutes away from signing our final divorce papers.
I ask you to please continue to pray for our marriage. At this time we are waiting for a new date to be set. It could be weeks or months depending on how backed up the court system is. I don't know what God's plans are, but I am praising him for this divine delay. Thanks again for your prayers! They are greatly appreciated.
Blessings,
Joni
I'm still not divorced. I was two miles from the court house, just 15 minutes away from signing the final papers, when my cell phone range. It was my attorney's office calling to tell me the judge canceled the hearing. There was a mix up in the court time. I believe it was divine intervention. For some reason we were not meant to get divorced that day. I was able to meet with my husband for a little while. It was the first time I saw him in more than two years. It went well. He hugged me several times. We laughed and talked. It seemed like nothing ever happened between us. He told me the only reason he's still there and hasn't returned home is the fear of having to face everyone after what he's done. He kissed me goodbye before he left and said he loved me. I never thought I would hear those words again...I'm so thankful I did.
I don't know what God has planned for the future. I do know having that time with my husband was priceless. I saw the emotion on his face and heard it in his voice. He's always been a very prideful man. For him to face his family, friends, and the people in our small community, after they all know what he's done, would be extremely difficult for him or for anyone. He admitted he wasn't happy where he was and that he missed his children and grandchildren. It's something only he can work out now. All I can do is continue to pray for him and surrender the situation to God. I feel more at peace now. Regardless of what happens, I know in some way this will all be used for the glory of God.
People keep asking me what I'm going to do now. Well, I'm going to be faithful to pray for my husband. What happens next is between God and him. I will go on with my life. I'm going to serve God, enjoy my grandchildren and children, spend time with my friends, continue to work on losing weight and developing a healthier lifestyle, and diligently work hard to pursue the career of my dreams...being a writer. I'm working on getting a freelance writing business off the ground, and I'm working on some projects to publish on Kindle.
I'm finding a renewed strength recently. I admit the weekend in Ohio was rough emotionally. At times I didn't think I was going to make it, but through reading God's word and praying I survived. No matter what fight we face, whether trying to overcome addictive behavior, crumbling marriages, or health problems, the weapon we need to win the battle is always the same, God's word. I will end with an email I sent to the ladies at my church. It gives more details about what happened that weekend for anyone who is interested.
Until next time, press on with your goals and never give up!
Email:
I would like to thank everyone who has been praying for me regarding my marriage and pending divorce. I traveled to Ohio this past weekend for our scheduled divorce settlement hearing. We were supposed to sign our final papers Monday morning at 10:00. The weekend was grueling for me emotionally. I was dreading walking into that court room on Monday. I had not seen my husband in almost 2-1/2 years since he left to live with his girlfriend in Ohio. I was wondering if she would be there. I felt like I was on an emotional roller coaster. I cried most of the weekend. I prayed God would stop the hearing, but it seemed hopeless. It was a day away, everything was going as planned, and I kept telling myself I had to accept that I was going to be driving back to Pennsylvania as a single woman after the court hearing.
I was reading 1 Samuel on Saturday morning and a verse stood out to me:
David said to the Philistine, "You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied." (1 Samuel 17:45)
I thought about how the "other woman" had called several months ago and screamed obscenities at me, because I sent my husband a text message. When I told her I was praying for our family to be reconciled, she screamed, "Pray all you want, it won't work." There were other verbal attacks that I won't elaborate on. The enemy was using her words as weapons to try and destroy my faith. I felt this was a spiritual battle from the beginning. Satan was waging war against my home, marriage, and family.
Monday morning, I took a piece of the hotel stationary out and wrote the verse on it. I folded it up and put it in my pocket. I was nervous and scared, but I kept thinking that I was going to face this difficult time in the name of the Lord Almighty. I kept repeating the verse as I finished getting ready. I felt strengthened and prepared as I drove the 30 minute commute to the city. I was two miles from the court house when my cell phone rang. It was my attorney's office telling me there was a problem. The judge had canceled the hearing because we were "no-shows." They asked me to find a place to stop and wait until they called to see what was going on. They soon called back and said apparently there was a mix up with the time. The court had our hearing set for 8:30 AM, but all of our papers said 10:00 AM. The judge and the attorneys didn't understand how the time got changed, as everything is computer generated, and the time listed in the computer system was still 8:30 AM. Yet, it printed on the copies as 10:00 AM. They said they had no explanation regarding how the time had printed differently and they never had that happen before. The judge refused to reschedule the hearing that day, because it would delay all the other hearings.
My husband called shortly after and we decided to meet and talk. We were able to spend about 30 minutes together. It went well. He hugged me several times and said he loved me. We were both emotional, and he said he just can't bring himself to return home because of what he has done and the fear of facing everyone is more than he could ever take. He is a very prideful man and admitted he misses his family but knows he could never face friends and family again due to the humiliation. He said fear is the only thing keeping him away from home.
God intervened and stopped the hearing on Monday for a purpose. I don't know if he is going to bring my husband home, or if it was just delayed so I would have that time alone with my husband to have some sort of closure. I do know it was divine intervention and for some reason it was not meant to happen that day. We were less 15 minutes away from signing our final divorce papers.
I ask you to please continue to pray for our marriage. At this time we are waiting for a new date to be set. It could be weeks or months depending on how backed up the court system is. I don't know what God's plans are, but I am praising him for this divine delay. Thanks again for your prayers! They are greatly appreciated.
Blessings,
Joni
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