The Other Woman

One thing I always wondered about since my husband left over a year ago was what the other woman looked like. I guess it's a "woman thing." I imagined her to be someone thin and very attractive. I knew the woman's name and from time to time I would search her name on the social networks and never came up with anything. (Another woman thing) Well, until today. Apparently, she decided to get a facebook page, and I found a picture of my husband and her together.  She is heavy and not attractive at all. He looks like he aged about 10 years since he left and doesn't look happy. He isn't even smiling in the picture. In the "about me" section on her facebook page she stated: "I'm very happy. I have a wonderful man, wonderful children, wonderful granddaughter, wonderful life."

I wonder if she ever thinks about the four children who no longer have a father and the three beautiful little children who no longer have a grandfather because she helped to break up a home and family. I wonder if she thinks about the wife left behind battling multiple health issues and trying to scrape up enough money to pay the bills. Does she wonder what I look like? Has she visited my facebook page? I wonder...

Life is strange. I remember all the comments my husband made about my weight in the past. At one point he even used it as one of his reasons for wanting to leave. He said he liked skinny women. I certainly don't judge any person based on their looks or weight, and I'm not making fun of her because of her looks and body type. I just find it ironic after all the put downs from my husband about my weight that he would get involved with an overweight woman.

I feel better knowing what other woman looks like. I no longer have to wonder. It still makes no sense to me why a man would desert his entire family for another woman,  but I have a face to put with a name. 

So much is going through my mind. I thought about sending her a friend request, or perhaps posting a picture of me with my husband on her page, but I won't. (Oh, the things that are going through my mind right now!) I have found it's always a disaster when I react without thinking and praying. So for now, I will continue to pray for both of them and wait for God to work.